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The B.D.A. Code – Before, During, After Sextortion - Developed By Sensei Liam Musiak

1️⃣ BEFORE – Protect Yourself

The best defence is prevention. Sextortion starts long before the threat appears. You make yourself stronger by being aware, cautious, and secure online.


Remember the 3 Ps – Privacy, Proof, Prevention:


  • Privacy: Keep accounts locked, avoid sharing personal info or images with people you haven’t met in real life.

  • Proof: Don’t send or store anything intimate online. If it’s digital, it’s copyable.

  • Prevention: Trust instincts. If someone rushes intimacy, avoids video calls, or refuses to prove who they are — that’s a red flag.



Karate mindset:

In self-defence, you don’t walk into danger — same online. Protect your space before trouble starts.



2️⃣ DURING – Control the Situation

When the threat happens, panic gives the criminal power. Control gives you power.


Use the 4 Cs – Cease, Collect, Contact, Confide:


  • Cease: Stop all replies immediately. Do not argue, negotiate, or pay.

  • Collect: Screenshot all messages, profiles, usernames, and payment demands. Save them securely.

  • Contact: Report to police via CEOP or call 101. Also report to the platform.

  • Confide: Tell someone you trust — a friend, parent, instructor, or colleague. You’re not alone, and silence helps them, not you.



Karate mindset:

When you’re attacked, you don’t freeze — you act with calm purpose. The same applies here: no panic, just precise steps.





3️⃣ AFTER – Take Back Control

Once you’ve reported, your goal is to recover confidence, protect others, and move forward.


Think of the 3 Rs – Remove, Reflect, Rebuild:


  • Remove: Use StopNCII.org to prevent image spread. Lock accounts and change passwords.

  • Reflect: You’re not at fault. Sextortion is manipulation, not mutual wrongdoing.

  • Rebuild: Talk to someone, reset mentally, and keep helping others learn the signs. You’ve turned a crime into awareness — that’s strength.



Karate mindset:

After any fight, you don’t stay in fear — you learn, recover, and grow stronger.



Summary Card


B.D.A. – Before, During, After

  • Before: Privacy • Proof • Prevention

  • During: Cease • Collect • Contact • Confide

  • After: Remove • Reflect • Rebuild



Tagline:


“B.D.A. — Before, During, After. Protect, Act, Recover.”





Why This Code Works

  • It mirrors real self-defence logic — threat awareness, response, aftermath.

  • It’s easy to teach in seminars, social media posts, or schools.

  • It reinforces emotional recovery, not just technical reporting.


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